when you twins start crying and screaming

[Lilac]

over a toy, or because they are fighting...or whatever...

Do you rush right in? Do you let them try to handle it themselves?

[Mingle Bells]

Both, I guess. It depends on how upset they are. I usually try to stop it before it gets bad. I guess I lean more to letting them settle it, with verbal help from me. Who had it first? We need to share. You can play with it next... that sort of thing.

[zak frost]

Depends on if they are ready to kill each other or just maim each other. Actually, with the twins, I figured that they are pretty much evenly matched and they really really won't hurt each other (and they make up almost immediately).

If it is between Beak and one of the twins, I step in. He is 20 lbs heavier and alot bigger. It also depends on if the twins are double teaming him. I figure that makes it more "fair" sort of, but not really.

[Chaser]

Not really, but my twins are only 14 months. Robert steals whatever E is playing with, she goes and plays with something else, he steals that, and she goes back to playing with the first thing. They haven't gotten up to bashing yet. I'll probably step in if there's bashing involved.

[Iggy]

Chris tends to come to me if Dom takes his toy, and I try to encourage him to deal with it himself a bit, hold his own, y'know. Dom is definitely the dominant one, Chris generally doesn't fight him off but Dom will fight Chris for a toy. If they get bad hitting each other over a toy, I'll take it away from both of them, or if they keep crying and yelling over it for a long time.

[TotalBeach]

Both, I guess. It depends on how upset they are. I usually try to stop it before it gets bad. I guess I lean more to letting them settle it, with verbal help from me. Who had it first? We need to share. You can play with it next... that sort of thing.

That sounds exactly like me. Maybe because our kiddos are the same age.

[Lady]

I tend to try and let them settle it, but that doesn't always work. Most of the time they come running to me and I have to go through the questions of: Who had it first? You need to take turns, bla bla bla.

[Candyland]

J and L get really violent with each other. I tend to act like I am ignoring them but if I think they are going to hurt each other I'll separate them and take the toy.

[Korena]

I let them handle it then if it gets to bad I get in there and pull them apart

[SnowBirdie]

if they can't settle it or i am in the middle and in the line of possible injury (as in tandem nursing them and they are fighting over a toy...ow!), i will tell them to share, take turns, or they lose the toy.

if no one looks to be injured soon, i let them figure it out. for instance, annie steals everything amanda has, but i have noticed lots of times annie gives her something in return now. if amanda is okay with the trade so am i. if not we stop them before amanda gets mad. she is laid back, but if she gets mad ow!