What are some ways

[Lilac]

You can help your preteen/early teen get thru this time in their lives?

This is such an influential time and can really swing their lives in different directions. Do you think there is a way that you can help make the road they take the right one?

[zak frost]

I have no clue!! I am muddling through it with Beak.

[SnowBirdie]

I think modelling for them how an adult is supposed to behave, listening when they want to talk, making sure your rules are clear and that you follow your family's values helps.

I think listening and taking seriously what they are going through too...not jumping on them when they do come to us....those types of things I think help. Just spending time with them and letting them knwo that they matter and that you care aobut their lives.

Also, anyone with girls...it is hugely important to have dad spend time with her and give her the attention she needs and approval so she won't have to get it from a boy instead. That is just so important, and having mom on her side but still enforcing rules when needed keeps a balance. Hope that all made sense..lol.

[Moodyzblu]

Like RA said .. listen to your teen and make time to have open conversations with them. Let them ask you questions without judgement.
Also .. know who their friends are and what kind of kids they are.
Another thing .. get your kid involved in activities .. they have less time for trouble when they are involved with a sport or hobby. My girls were doing karate, softball, and skating lessens all at one time. As they got older they ventured into live theatre. I have always known where they were and who they were with.

[Lilac]

I think you guys nailed it. Communication is so important. Knowing who their friends are is imperative.

omg, I am scared. :skeert

[crazycase]

I honestly am excited for that stage in their life. Hopefully I don't miss the train with them. I want them to be able to come to me for anything. I am a pretty open-minded person and I hope that carries on as I and the girls get older. I agree with activities. I was involved with softball, basketball, and theatre! Just make sure your not judging her every move and waiting for her to make a mistake, love her unconditionally and always be open for conversation. My mother was really never there for me during these very important years. And when she was it was mostly yelling and judging and waiting for me to make mistakes. Instead of waiting for the mistakes, praise her for things gone great, kwim?:yep