So we may know what's going on with my 4 yr old

[Loosey]

I think most of you probably saw my post about my frustrations with my 4 yr old, Dylann. Since we've been dealing with this for about a year and a half now and her issues are escalating (and my patience is very thin) I figured it was time to take her to the pedi. I always say it's a good idea to write things down so as not to forget, but I never do..this time I did. I wrote down every single little thing that we have/are dealing with and when we went in I didn't know where to start! She told me just read off everything on my list..(have I mentioned I love her?) I told her we've tried positive reinforcement, we set up several rewards systems (none of which were of interest to her), we took privileges away (to which she would say "That's ok"), time out, earlier bedtime, sent her to her room, and the list goes on. I'm concerened she has no letter or number recognition and has no desire to learn anything, even her written name is unfamiliar to her! Anyway, bottom line is she thinks it MAY be ADHD, but she said it's so hard to diagnose someone her age, before she has even started school, at least for a pediatrician so she referred us to a group of child psychologists and she said they have specified testing for various things, even for her age. I can not watch her struggle in school the way I did with my son. It's the most heartbreaking thing ever, it isolates them socially, emotionally, behaviorally, and most definitely their self esteem suffers. So, I feel really happy and oddly somewhat relieved that she handled it so professionally and took me seriously. My daughter is stubborn I will admit that, but I'm her mom, I'm with her all day and I know there is more to it than that and I guess I just feel somewhat validated if that makes sense. Anyway, thanks for reading and I really appreciate all of your support on my last post!

[twinbears]

I am glad you saw your pedi about it. I hope it is all figured out before she goes to school or if not at least you are on the road there.

[Bonkey]

I am so glad you are going to this doc. :hugs I hope the psychologists figure out what is going on. :friends2

[crazycase]

Glad you saw the pedi! I hope everything gets better with her soon!

[TheBudsMom]

:high5 For taking your concerns to your pedi! i always say a Mother knows best if there is really something wrong with their child. I hope they can figure out what is going on and she can be a happy productive child when it is time for her to go to school :hugs

[Candyland]

This sounds exactly like my son. :para Exactly! He just turned 5 and is finally willing to learn but the behavioral issues are still there. He's a very smart kid and picks up quickly on things he WANTS to learn. So many people tell me he is ADHD but I can't have him tested yet. We're going to see how he does in kindergarten and then test if necessary. It's so frustrating and I totally feel for you. :hugs

[Pezzle Stick]

I'm so glad your pedi took you seriously. Moms know their children best and I'm glad you decided to have her checked out. Hopefully the psycologists can give you some answers as to why she is behaving this way. Hang in there. I know it has to be tough :hugs

[Spuds]

I'm happy you took your concerns to your pedi. At least someone else can comment on what you have seen. I hope when you take her to the doc he has some good answers for you. :bighug

[2littlelovebugs]

So glad you talked to your pedi. It sounds like you're on the right track. Good for you for being so proactive about your children's well being. Not all parents are. I hope the psychologist has some good input as well. :bighug

[WhoserMomma!]

I am so glad you took her in!!! I really hope they find a solution to make you all happy! :bighug

[WendyDixie]

I am so glad you went to the ped with this. I know that you will be able to find the solution that she needs....:hug

[zak frost]

I am so glad that you were referred for more testing! That is a huge part of the battle sometimes. Now, to get the testing done and see what they think.

Toad is like that. He still doesn't recognize his letters well. At his 9 yr old checkup, the nurse had to use the hands instead of the letter eye chart because he couldn't figure out the letters.

[Loosey]

Zakity, thank you SO much for everything! We are going to discuss the CAPD with the psychologist as well. The pedi said it may not even be ADHD, that it may be some other learning difference, but there is definitely one there that causes her to struggle. She just thinks it's presenting itself as ADHD, but so many things do. Anyway, I really appreciate your help, information & kindness during all of this :hugs

[fire~n~ice]

I am glad your peds was so willing to listen. :hugs

[Super Goo]

:hugs I am glad they are doing something for you :pinkheart

[Gabe+2more]

It's great that you brought this up with your Pedi and that She listened to you and is sending her for testing! I hope you can get some definitive answers and get on the path to helping her!

best of luck!

[Sarabela]

I just read your other post for the first time. It sounds a lot like Drew was at that age. Until he was 7 or so he used to draw on walls, furniture, carpet, anything! He loved to break things. It was like it was fascinating to break crayons and pencils. He would even break toys, just to see if he could. Time outs, taking away his favorite toys, telling him he couldnt play outside for x number of days, no TV, no computer. None of it really worked although we stuck with it. If ever I got to the spanking stage (I am just like you when it comes to that) it did seem to shock him into behaving, for like 2 hours. He still has a little trouble with impulse control at age 11 but he is much much much better. I think part of it is that even though they didnt seem to work we stuck with taking things away and now that is very important to him. That and the fact that he is just more mature. I never did complain to my doctor but I always kind of thought he probably had a touch of ADHD or ADD. The weird thing is he has had a little trouble in school but it has been very minor, he behaves so much better around teachers than he does with us. I hope things improve for you soon!

[Dixie Momma]

I'm glad you've taken steps to see if you can help her. I hope the testing reveals what she needs to help her succeed!