The hard parts of being a mommy. :(

[Moonie]

Taylor is having a really hard time with the death of my moms cat. He had to be put to sleep b/c he was old and had horrible seizures. My mom finally put him to sleep when he started hurting himself. This has been about a month ago. Tonight Taylor had a breakdown. She is balling. She made a picture of her and him and wrote him a letter. I am balling. She put it in an envelope, drew a stamp and had me write "to Freddy, at Jesus and heaven. I miss you so much and I want you back all better." She flipped the envelope over and is writing how much she misses him and balling. Why do we have to deal with this. It hurts so bad. The worst part of all of this is we just found out that my great grandma, Taylors Great Great Grandma, has only weeks to months to live. How am I going to deal with her then. She will be 5 in December. Is she old enough to go to the funeral? Oh my goodness, I think this has been one of the hardest things I have had to deal with. It sure feels like it right now. Why did she just have her breakdown? It has been a month. Why now. I think I am going to go take a hot shower.

[chasing_two]

Oh my goodness, what a sweet child you have. I have no advice as to what to do, I'm sorry.

[fire~n~ice]

Gosh I have no advice either, as mine ar not that old yet. :comfort

[CherHell]

:cry Aw, man... I am not looking forward to those kind of mommy moments...

It must be hard teaching them that death, is a part of life.

Mine has been peppering me with questions about dying lately - he asked me to night if heaven was far away, like Minnesota - and can we take a plane there. I had to explain that once you go there, you don't get to get visitors :(

[rtmommie]

explain to her that great grandma is going to heaven to take care of the cat.
I also say that when it's thundering, it's the angels bowling and the lightning are the angels taking your picture, so smile!

[zak frost]

I explained death to my boys that your body wears out like the cars do. You can get spare parts for a car, but eventually, you can't get parts for it anymore. Bodies aren't that easy to get spare parts for and, eventually, the parts in your body wear out and you die.

In the case of an accident, I told them that the person's parts were damaged too much and the doctors couldn't fix them. That they can only do so much for them with the technology that we have at this point (we have gone over medicine throughout the years, since the middle ages).

[Candyland]

I have always explained death by telling them the truth for the most part (at least what I believe). I'm sorry she is sad and I know it must be very tough for you. Could she get a new cat for your house? Could she make a scrapbook of pictures for him? Maybe a stuffed animal cat that she can cuddle and "talk" to?

I hope her heart heals soon. :hug

[Supercalafragilistic]

YOu should read her the Rainbow Bridge poem and explain it to her :yep

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge. When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind. They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....
Author unknown...


When my grandfather, then aunt, then FIL passed away, we just explained that sometimes, people get too old, or too sick to live on earth. So, thier souls go to heaven and, even though we won't see them here on earth anymore...we'll see them again in heaven, when it's our turn to go.


Mikey and Lynny seem to understand it, and they know that we will see our loved ones again in time.

[TEF]

Kebs' poem above is wonderful and you should read it to her. :hug Hope the poor thing feels better soon and her heart heals :comfort

[YoMomma]

That poem is beautiful.
I would do a journal sort of thing so she knows it is ok to show emotions, and this is a way to do so. What a sweetheart you have!
When we have had a class pet die, I have the kids write letters and we made a book out of it.
Writing always makes some feel better.
Hope her heart heals in time.

[Spuds]

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