Thought I'd ask you "school experienced" mommies...

[melvisray]

Aubrey and Sarah go to a 2-year-old program at a local church on Tue/Thurs from 9-3. It's so great, they love their teachers and have so much fun, and I can tell they're actually learning stuff! Anyway, I met a new dilemma yesterday: the girls are in separate classes (my choice) and one of the little girls in Aubrey's class brought her class the cutest vinyl trick-or-treat bags full of goodies! It was so nice! However, you can see my dilemma: Aubrey got one and Sarah didn't. I had to hide it when I got home because Aubrey wanted it and Sarah didn't have one, too.

Has this happened to you? What do you do to handle it? I don't know if my girls are old enough to understand that being separate classes means these things happens, I don't want Sarah to think that I like Aubrey more or something. Advice??

[Pezzle Stick]

I have no advice. My twins are in an inhome daycare still so I haven't had this problem yet but I could see where it would be difficult for you. Sorry you had to deal with that. I hope some others have advice for you :hug

[WendyDixie]

Wow I really don't have any advice. I want to read what other people have to say this is intresting.

[Supercalafragilistic]

Teach them to share....that's all you can do :(

[carchris kringle]

Wow -
I haven't had this happen when someone else has given to 1 and not the other.
However, from the beginning we have never done same/same with things. If we are using something as a reward we have on occassion rewarded one and not the other. Yes, there were tears, heartbreaking almost making me break myself tears, but we stuck to it. There have been times when 1 came to the store and got a treat and the other didn't and that's life. Again, tears. Now at 5 they understand they are not always going to get the same as their brother. Life isn't fair and they need to learn that now, or when they grow it will be harder. However, their compassion always shines in these instances and they share with their twin, but on their terms, not mine.... Their K teachers are always impressed at how individual they are and I have to pat myself on the back. :clap for that

What I suggest is that if there is 2 things in there let the one who received choose what she wants out of it and then give the other something from the bag as well and Praise the one who got the bag for 'sharing' with their sibling. As they grow they will continue to think of their twin when getting something and will hopefully continue to share.

good luck
jenni

[UnFun]

Honestly, what I would have done is this;

I would tell Aubrey, "Oh look what Sarah got! Isn't that cool!?" Then tell Sarah "How nice your friend was to share with you! Let's share with Aubrey so she feels special too, ok?"

Than force her to share :para :snicker

In my house, I don't want to hide or diminish the excitment when something happens to one but not to the other. I want my kids to learn to celebrate with each other when something good happens and I also want them to learn to share with their siblings when they have come into good fortune. :shrug

[WhoserMomma!]

Honestly, what I would have done is this;

I would tell Aubrey, "Oh look what Sarah got! Isn't that cool!?" Then tell Sarah "How nice your friend was to share with you! Let's share with Aubrey so she feels special too, ok?"

Than force her to share :para :snicker

In my house, I don't want to hide or diminish the excitment when something happens to one but not to the other. I want my kids to learn to celebrate with each other when something good happens and I also want them to learn to share with their siblings when they have come into good fortune. :shrug

That is what I would do too. I even make my older ones share too. lol When they got candy on Halloween, They automatically made sure each one of them had a lot of candy. I am glad I taught them to share at a young age, and I hope the twins will join in soon! lol

[Lilac]

If it were me I would try to encourage them to share with each other.

[TEF]

Agree with Kebs and Lil. I have been in that situation before and that is what I have done. Taught them to share with one another. Starting it now while they are still so little will make it easier down the road.